This is an old shot of Josh and me, back from 2009. Remember him? He’s hard to miss in a crowd and hard to forget when you meet him. He’s the love of my life and I really hope that one day soon, I’ll be able to call him my husband.
A couple months back, we were rushed to the hospital when he wasn’t feeling right, to find out he has dilated cardiomyopathy. This means his heart is beating at 10% the strength of a normal heart. This is a disease that elderly people suffer from. Josh will be 25 this summer. After what I can honestly say was the worst week of our lives — when I almost lost him forever, he was released. I created a PayPal account for those who were willing to give us money to help out since his new diet and immediate medical needs cost us most of our savings and nearly put us in a very very big hole.
We finally received the hospital bill, and he owes nearly $20,000.
We’ve been trying to get him insured, but he makes just enough past the line that would give him access to Medicaid. He doesn’t make enough for Obamacare insurance — believe me, we’ve been staring at that site for weeks trying to decipher it and honestly, he’s concluded that he’d rather pay all the costs as they come instead of putting all his money into insurance that would ultimately put us in debt if he enrolled.
I just started a temporary new job, which will help a little, but because we aren’t married yet (and don’t fit the requirements for domestic partnership) he isn’t qualified under the insurance I will have for the duration of my job. I have student loans to pay up and state exam fees to save for, not to mention after all this hell, I’m determined to get married and have a small, simple wedding before the year is out if money permits.
I hate putting myself out here again, but we’re still in need of help. It hasn’t really stopped since he’s been released, but I don’t want to pester people for aid. He just had another test done and the bills are piling up almost weekly, not counting the hospital bill. He was told he will be placed on more medications, on top of the others he now takes — which we pay out of pocket for each month — and now has to get set up at another hospital in case he needs a heart transplant in the future. A transplant. I can’t even think of that happening, but it’s a very real possibility.
If his heart doesn’t improve by May, he will have to undergo surgery to get a defibrillator installed, so we’re doing all we can to make sure he sees the right doctors and can afford to see them, which we are struggling with.
Please, if you can toss us even $1, it would be such a great thing.
When I last asked, over $1,500 was raised, which has gone to pay off some of the bills and help with his new diet maintenance. I don’t expect anything like that again, but any aid will mean the world to both of us. Really, if it’s $1 or $50, it doesn’t matter. To donate, go here and click on the donate button in the description section.
My birthday is next week. The greatest gift I could ever get is knowing that my fiancee will not have so much stress on his mind that he makes him self even sicker. I need him strong and stress-free. I want him to live. Please, help me achieve that. Thank you.